There was a point in my life I mindlessly fell ‘in love’ with a certain boy. The one who thought he was slick as he fearlessly and steadfastly shoot an “I miss you” text to his other woman, right when I turn around for a few minutes. The one who…
This was soooo on point . I related to everything you wrote .
Sometimes I wish I was strong enough to leave people alone when they decide they’re done with me . I always end up going back when they want me to, but I always end up heartbroken when they decide there’s something better .
“Guys are like subway trains. Don’t run after them; another one is on its way.”
“If he says he isn’t ready for a relationship, believe him.”
“Marry someone you want to sit next to for the rest of your life.”
“My grandfather had some gems: ‘Don’t be with a stupid man just to be with any man.’ ‘A real man always takes care of his family.’ ‘You don’t want to be walked over, and you don’t want a man you can walk over, either.’ And my favorite: ‘Don’t be a fool, Michelle. You can be anything you want, but don’t be a fool.’”
“Don’t trust anyone who doesn’t laugh.”
“The guys who were nerdy in high school make the best husbands.”
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
“You can tell a lot about a guy by how he treats your cab driver.”
“If he likes you, you’ll know. If he doesn’t, you’ll be ‘confused.’”
“Respect yourself. I said to my ex, ‘I’m not going to make you my everything if I’m only your something.’”
“I used to be into bad boys but kept getting burned. Then I heard this: ‘Say no to the guys you usually say yes to, and yes to the ones you normally say no to.’ I did, and it totally worked. I have a great husband now.”
“Never marry a man who has no friends.”
“Never tattoo a guy’s name on your body!”
“Personal hygiene is part of the package.”
“It’s OK to show up at a guy’s house with a dozen roses and declare your undying affection. It’s OK to have too much to drink and call your ex 20 times and then to be mortally embarrassed when you realize your number must have shown up on his caller ID. It’s OK, because making a fool of yourself for love is ultimately about you, how much you have to give and the distances you will travel to keep your heart wide open when everything around you makes you feel like slamming it shut and soldering it closed.” [Via]
Here’s to all the girls who used to be his number one. The ones who waited all night for him to call, only to check the caller ID the nextmorning & be disappointed. The ones who made it through that bitter break up, dried your own tears, & moved on with your life, only to have him walk back in it months later like nothing ever happened. Those of you who cried on the first day you talked again because you knew exactly where this phone call was going. The ones who listened to him say, “I only want to be your friend”, one day, and the next, listened to him say how much he loves & misses you. We deserve something, and this is our tribute. Here’s to the ones that took himback, hoping that maybe this time, he was different, hoping that maybe people really dochange. We listened to our friends tell us that we were stupid for even thinking about giving him another chance, caught crap from our parents, &even snuck around to see him for while. We went through the great stage with no fights all over again. We started this out thinking it would be just friends, & ended up falling in love with him again. We wanted nothing more in the world than to hear him tell us he loved us too, that even though things were bad in the past, they would be different this time. And when wefinally heard it, it was like we were dreaming. This is for us. Here’s to the ones who believed what he said, sat around all over againwaiting for a phone call that might come in a few hours, or a fewdays. Here’s for the tears cried and dried all over again. We wanted so desperatelyto believe that he was really busy, he couldn’t possibly call us at that moment, or even that he fell asleep early. We trained ourselves to believe the lies because we wanted to believe we had found the one for us. We learned to settle for someone who didn’ttreat us the way we should be treated. Here’s for the ones who did their hair and make up & put on their prettiest earrings, only to hear him say that he couldn’t see us today. The ones who never believed it when people told us there might be someone else. We just couldn’t believe that he could do this to us again. This is for those great girls who loved him more than words can say, & took him back no matter what happened last time because they couldn’t bear to look back on their lives one day & wonder “what if”. This is for the girls that stayed up all night long listening to him whine about an ex girlfriend who cheated on him, & cried during the entireconversation. The ones who hoped he would realize that he deserved better, that he deserved us. When he said that he loved you, but he was in love with her, he didn’t mean it. This is for the ones that held on to something that was never there to begin with. This is for us girls, who somehowmanaged to get him to forget about her, & get him to tell us that he was in love with us again, only to have him tell us three weeks later that “things were going too fast, he needs time.” Here’s to the girls who couldn’t cry to their friends because of how stupid they felt. The ones who held it all in when things camecrumbling to pieces again. This is for the ones who couldn’t bear to even tell their mom what was going on, for fear of an “I told you so.” The ones that could just tell that they had made a mistake everallowing him into their hearts &their dreams again. We knew that we deserved better the entire time, that we deserved a guy who would call when he said he was going to, one that would come see uswhenever he got the chance, one that would really care about us. We just wanted the one that we loved like that. Here’s for the ones that finally realized that he never gave a crap about them. Here’s for the time that he broke your heart again. This is for those days spenttrying to hold back the tears, & the tears that turned into anger, then disappointment. Here’s for us girls who finally realized that we deserve better. This is for those confusing days, when you miss him & want nothing more than to hear his voice, or feel his arms around your waist. Stay strong and remember that relationships are like broken glass; sometimes it’s better to leave it alone rather than try to put the pieces back together & get hurt. Remember the times you cried & how long it took you to even be able to look at another guy like that. When ‘your song’ comes on the radio, turn the station. When the day comes that he realizes what a mistake he made &tries calling, turn your phone off. When he tries coming to yourhouse, don’t answer the door. Think of the broken promises, and the lies, the manipulation & the tears, the wasted moments and staying up all night wondering where the crap he was. Think of how yourheart used to jump when your phone would vibrate in the middle of the night & how it fell to your stomach when you saw it wasn’thim, and realized that once again, he hadn’t called when he said he was going to. One day you’ll find a guy who’s worth all the tears, but he won’t make you cry. You may think that you’ll never care about someone like you did that guy that you always ran back to, but you will. It’s going to hurt like crap, & it’s going to need time to heal, but the point is, it willheal. This is for those girls who fell back in love with their ex, only to get hurt all over again.
“Some women choose to follow men and some women choose to follow their dreams. If your wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it’ doesn’t love you anymore”—Lady Gaga (via sarajoland) (via loveandafreespirit) (via recklessxrebel) (via raeyskyy)